I have often wandered why people stay in unhealthy relationships. For example, constant arguing like my neighbours. In all the time I have known them, I have never known or seen them not argue at least once a day. They are ‘friendly’ for all 5 minutes and that it is. Then there is other relationship where the woman is a door mat or should I dare to say a mother, she cooks, cleans and he does absolutely nothing, well apart from bathe & dress himself. I have had the opportunity to speak to women in this type of relationship, all they say is if ‘I don’t take care of him who would?’ or he is hopeless so it is better for me to do it or he doesn’t have a clue about cooking, cleaning, etc. Really? Well it is not rocket science to clean, the man learn, all it takes is cleaning products, vacuum cleaner, duster, mop and so on. The same applies to cooking, these days, no one has excuses, there are TV programmes on cooking, including internet tutorial videos from good ole you-tube!
Someone very nicely told me it is because I am not in a relationship that I don’t understand these things, yes they are right. But does that mean I don’t know what a doormat is? I know I will not like to be treated like a piece of meat or a maid who is there at the beck and call of her man, then wants sex after wearing me out!! I am all for man and woman playing their roles in the marriage but it does not mean one should be so superior to the other that the spouse feels so small or insignificant. Quite frankly, I will rather be happy single than be in a miserable relationship all for the fear of being alone or wanting to be part of the club. So and so is married, I don’t want to be an old maid, blah, blah. It is just a load of gobblers!
I may not be married yet but I do believe marriage should be an equal partnership, in the sense that the couples treat each other with respect, love, admiration, compliment each other, etc. At the same time, the man and woman should play their roles, ie; the husband been the head without abusing his power like dominating his wife and children. The same with the wife not playing mind games or putting down her husband in public, etc.