I have often heard/read stories of people who ‘claim‘ they are on friendly terms with their ex. Can that really be possible, especially if the person had hurt the other really bad? The word ‘bad‘ could take on a lot of meanings- cheated on, abuse, violated, bullied, etc.
Take your pick. I suppose it depends on the parties concerned. Are they both emotionally strong enough to forget the past, get over what has happened. As the saying goes ‘it takes two‘. Then there is the question of the new person in their lives. Are they are willing/trusting that the old relationship will not be re-kindled. I suppose that comes down to trust and how secure they feel in their relationship.
On a personal note, I will have to be honest that I can’t be friends with an ex. As far I am concerned it is in the past and should stay that way. It is not that I am been unforgiven I just don’t see the need for it, I mean it’s different if a child is involved. You have no choice but to be at least civil for the sake of the child (ren). Ok I am friends with an ex but that is on Face Book, he lives in another country, we don’t send each other messages so I am good besides I even question what I saw in him in the first place?
I don’t how to conclude so I will just quote a Bible verse. Ephesians 4:32 – ‘ and be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you”