It is that season again – weddings, weddings, weddings …. Let’s be honest in as much as we are happy for the bride & groom to be, deep down we wish it was our day. We won’t be human if we don’t think so. I for one will be turning down any wedding invites this year, simply because I know no one close to me is getting hitched, it will be people I know from church who let’s face it I don’t really know on a personal level. We meet at other ‘events’, maybe even sit together, socialise a bit then go home, see them again in church the next Sunday, quick chat after service, etc. Another reason is attending weddings cost money – new outfit, accessories & pressies. I am not been mean but I can’t keep forking out for a wedding that is not of a close friend.
Ok, you could say ‘why not wear something in your wardrobe. I could but there will pictures of the same outfit on social media. Call me vain but I don’t want to be seen wearing the same outfit twice in the same year. I am sure a lot of ladies reading this feel the same. I know people shouldn’t judge you based on what you wear but like I said earlier are ‘human’. However, we can ‘recycle’ an outfit for another wedding say a year or two later, I did so last year as I knew even if there were pictures of the suit on Social media it was not the same group and even it was it wouldn’t matter as there was no picture of it on my profile, etc.
Let’s not forget this is also the season of babies, another expense, buying gifts twice – baby shower & when the baby arrives. Then there are kids and adult parties, let’s face it Spring/Summer is expensive if you are a social butterfly.
Sorry if I am sounding tight fisted but I am just stating the obvious, I have just gotten to a stage in my life where I only want to go to events of my nearest and dearest. Don’t get me wrong I still give presents to the couple or celebrant after the event, I just don’t feel the need to be there in person as a lot of my close friends have moved away or are not invited to the same events. Sometimes, I will make an exception, if say I am in the mood to socialise or have nothing else on …..
Regardless of my thoughts, I like this time of year, it is fun, especially the outdoors. Speaking of which I have never been to an outdoor wedding, if there is one I just may attend even if I end up shelling a bit, lol. Please note these are just my thoughts, I don’t expect anyone to suddenly do the same. It’s good to get out there, make new friends, most importantly have enjoy yourself, who knows …. I won’t guarantee it otherwise I would have been off the market by now but you never know, God has different plans for everyone. Ok, I know all of the above is optional but you do get the feeling that you are obligated to attend, especially if it is a member of the church where you belong to the same ‘group’ or ministry. In my case, it is Sunday School – showing ‘support’ for a fellow Teacher.
I think I have rambled on a bit, please feel free to comment, agree or disagree it doesn’t matter. We all have different views.