I may not be going away on holiday (again) this year but I have been making the most of the summer. There is no point sitting at home and moping, going out need not be expensive, I am not talking parties or going to a BBQ. There are many ways to enjoy friends company without spending a fortune, I for one don’t like the idea of going to people’s houses, even if it is an invite to dinner. I just feel it is an unnecessary burden particularly when I get invited back again. Which is why I meet my friends on mutual ground, go out for a meal so it’s not just one friend who is spending time and money to have guests in their homes. Don’t get me wrong I am not entirely against dinner parties it is just that nowadays I don’t think it is unfair considering the current economic climate besides it is one sided, the host/hostess doesn’t really have time to enjoy or relax because they are too busy trying to make their guests comfortable. However, if people out of the goodness of their hearts want people in their homes that is fine, I just don’t think they should feel obligated to repeat it and even they did. I would on a personal level suggest going out to a restaurant, picnic, or anywhere outside the home is far more relaxing then I don’t feel I have put them out of pocket besides we are both spending probably the same amount of money when we go out, I am sure you catch my drift.
I am also aware some people just love entertaining but I still won’t take advantage of that, by constantly visiting their homes. I would like to be with them away from the home so I am more relaxed myself. If short of funds, there are always free events or cheap places to meet – galleries, museums, cafes, park, etc. If your friends say they can’t come out with you, I usually find it is because they are broke. If they are close friends they will probably tell you the truth, 9 out 10 I find friends never want to let on about their financial situation because they don’t want you to worry you or feel they are rubbing salt in your wounds if you are experiencing the same problem. In situations like that I will suggest meeting up in a public place like a museum, outdoors like the park, if they don’t suffer from allergies, have a mini picnic, take a board game you can play, or other outdoor games, or do whatever takes your fancy in other words, let yourself go!! I did that last Saturday with my BFF, we had just had a meal, strolling down the river bank, we were just messing about – singing & dancing, I felt so exhilarated afterwards. Sometimes we need a bit of silliness to make us realise we are alive.
All I am saying, ignore the fact that there are so many ‘loved couples’, around you; on the streets, make the best of the summer, do fun and exciting things, take on a new hobby. Basically do something to occupy your time, like I have always said ‘embrace your singleness’, you will discover that people actually admire you for not letting it get to you. I often get asked why I am always so bubbling and full of life, my answer apart from having Jesus as my Lord and Saviour, I am ‘high’ on life. I am not going to sit around and let the world pass me then years down the line wander what I have done with all my life.
Carpe Diem – cease the day.